Most people would think it's their bad ideas getting in the way.
But good ideas exist on the same plane of thought as bad ideas, for a few reasons:
-we believe they've been thoroughly vetted by others and reference-checked
-they require less mental effort and energy
-(like habits) they're safe defaults, a.k.a. non-decision
On the other hand, great ideas (which we are all capable of having), require greater-imagined risk of failure and, worse, risk of looking like a fool.
But when a great idea is followed with absolute conviction, it won't matter what you look like. Instead, your confidence will shine through and leave others wishing they could be as care-free. That's what confidence is-- minding your business and focusing on the task in front of you.
And once you can accept this, you'll realize your best ideas are your most feared.
Your best ideas come from deep within you. They come from shocking yourself into new realizations and reaching new conclusions.
-> So what you need to do is get those good ideas (as attached as you are to them) out of your head and safely tucked away somewhere so you never fear forgetting them again.
This will clear the way to having new, even better, ideas.
Can you imagine that? (Trust me, you will.)
Only recently have I digested the philosophy of: "Let go of the good to get to the great."
You can't blame other people for your inaction. You must take responsibility, which will give you back control of your circumstances (and how you view them-- as a blessing or a challenge). Take the challenge. Set yourself up for success by envisioning it. Plan out the steps you need to get there.
Why believe me?
This is me doing it. This is me letting go of what I thought/was told I wanted (a traditional publishing trajectory) and making myself vulnerable to you, now.
So now I want you to share with me, what's your trajectory? Sure, be realistic. But even better-- be unrealistic.
Don't spend a lot of time thinking about it. What's the first thing you would do if nothing was tying you down?
Get it down on paper. What's the second thing you would do? And the third thing?
Answer this question seriously:
Are you holding yourself back?
Think of yourself in one year. Where do you want to be? Write out some thoughts. Visualize what that person would look like.
Now (no matter your drawing ability), I want you to draw, a stick figure if you must. What does that person's energy look like? Capture it on paper or screen. Right in front of you.
Are they anxious? Are they depressed? Are they confident? Who wouldn't want to be more confident in one year?
Draw what that looks like (especially if it's a stick figure). No matter your drawing ability, I guarantee you, that stick figure will look a whole lot happier than you are right now.
Your imagination and willingness to have fun is the only thing holding you back.
So, now that you've visualized what success looks like in one year, what's stopping you from looking a little more like that stick figure every day?
Maybe it starts with smiling more, or rolling your shoulders back and standing proudly-- like you've got it all figured out.
Because I'll tell you one thing-- you're one step closer than most people.
Because you figured out:
It was you holding yourself back all along.
- Ric Datzko-Banta
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